Our Lovers' Creed 

Our Lovers' Creed

This is a wonderful compilation of words to live by.. for those who have chosen to take a Lover.

Dave found it. He'd sent it to me, before we were ever intimate - omitting the entry about 'pleasing each other sexually'. It wasn't appropriate, at the time ;)

He later, updated our creed, to this:

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I found this on an Internet site.....

I kind of liked it....and thought it would be good words for 'us' to live by....

I will listen to my lover with empathy and understanding, without judgments or preconceived notions. This is the single most important thing I must do, and trying to fake it will not work. I will let my lover talk openly without fear of criticism, and let them feel that they are truly heard. I will not tell my lover what to do or offer advice, unless asked. I WILL LISTEN.

I will open my heart to my lover. I will tell my lover about my dreams, my problems, my fears, my concerns and my feelings. I will share my interests, and outlook on life. I will share with my lover all I have been, am, and ever hope to become.

I will show my lover patience and gentle persistence. I will never give up pursuing my lover and trying to win her/him over, even after I have won. I will remember that love is not a game of speed or strength, but rather a game of endurance. I WILL NEVER STOP TRYING TO SEDUCE MY LOVER

I will be my lover's best friend: a warm, loving and affectionate companion. I will look out for my lover's welfare. I will always try my best to be there for my lover.

I will NEVER compromise my lover's home situation by thoughtless or selfish actions.

I will compliment my lover. By word and by deed I will make my lover feel noticed, smart, special, beautiful, desired, and appreciated. I will remember that how my lover feels about me is a direct result of how my lover feels about her/himself when I am with them.

I will work to bring romance and passion into my lover's life and keep it there. Little things go a long way, and if I am aware of how these little things make my lover feel, I will become addicted to the myself.

I will encourage my lover in her/his goals. My lover's power is my power, my lover's strengths, my strength, my lover's successes, my success.

I will respect my lover's independence. I will remember that my lover is her/his own person, with their own set of moods, goals, dreams, and
aspirations. I will know when to step back and give my lover space. When in doubt, I will ask.

I will always strive to please my lover sexually. We will feel free to try new things; the only limit is that we both feel comfortable with it, and the only way we are going to discover our limits is by talking about them. I will remember that giving and receiving are equally important.

I will always remember that a loving relationship is never something I take for granted, but rather it is something I BUILD and then I MAINTAIN.
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I love it.

Nancy