An amazing, wonderful experience. 

An amazing, wonderful experience.

I booked us a suite at a gorgeous hotel in our city. It was the same place we met our first time. It's funny, but it feels like home when we are there. We shared about 8 hours last night which was an incredible accomplishment for both of us. God we needed it though.

My inlaws were visiting this week. This posed an interesting problem. My wife has been sleeping in the spare bedroom for months now. She had to give that room up to them...and I noticed an attempt on her part to make it look not lived in. I wonder what her therapist would say to that? Needless to say it was a stressful week. By the time Friday came I was ready to escape with my lover.

I left work and picked up a couple of CD's, in particular one that contained a popular radio song that made me think of her often. I then headed to the liquor store and bought a bottle of Chianti and a bottle of Champagne. The thing with us is that it is not just a meeting for sex. Sex is often involved; however neither one of us feels pressure to do that. We are comfortable just sitting on the couch holding one another and talking about whats on our mind. I love that aspect of our relationship. That is gone with my wife. Whether you believe me or not, I have attempted so many times to try and recreate that bond to no avail. At a point you reach out to someone new. We ended up reaching out to each other.

We met and she got into my car. She looked stunning, feminine, breathtaking. We kissed and I told her she looked beautiful. A certain serenity blanketed both of us. We drove to our destination, took valet parking and checked in. It was surreal to me at this point. The entire thing planned in an instant (we are notorious for spontenaity). We luckily had the elevator to ourselves. I backed her into the corner and kissed her the entire ride to our floor.

Once in the room everything in the outside world vanishes. It is us. For us. Is that too much to ask? Is it too much to ask to be unconditionaly loved by another? Why do marriages inevitably seem to degrade to the point of communication being relegated to a few hi's and bye's a day? I struggle with the notion that maybe I chose the wrong spouse? Maybe my lover is the one? Damn.

The night was amazing. I feel I have grown so much as a man since meeting this woman. I know how to make love to a woman now. I always felt I was a competent lover but this is different. While not getting into specifics...it's the way it should be I think. The entire evening was about us, pleasure, consideration, love, attention, passion, and above all listening. God it feels good to be heard, to be listened to. We each confided a deep secret in one another. More of a truth to one another. It was hard hearing it, but so very good hearing what she had to tell me. I am glad she did. What I told her was probably the most difficult thing I have shared with another soul. My trust with this woman is growing beyond trust I have shared with anyone before.....

We shared in one another and it was amazing. It always is.

Until next time.

-dave

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Comment Faith, Alura, Thank you for kind words of happiness. More to your point Faith, I would like to make a few comments. First I appreciate your opinion, and I empathize with you for your partner's infidelity. I have been hoping to have a woman's opinion whose husband had strayed. As you can imagine, that is a difficult conversation starter in social situations :-) I found my wife's journal at one point in time. I did not read it. I told her I had found it and asked if I could read it to try and understand what she was thinking. She agreed, surprisingly. In it she outlined some of what I have shared already. She affirmed that I was still attentive and she felt loved but she had withdrawn and was no longer sexually interested. She felt she had a partial emotional attachment to me but felt herself unexplainably pulling away. She also outlined a number of predictions, such as me having enough and leaving (which was her biggest fear) or me having an affair. I was shocked. I didn't know what to do. I don't think telling her would be much value now. I think it would cause her undue hurt and grief knowing. Remember I truely do respect your opinion and your situation but I ask you this.....how long would you stay in an emotionally isolated, and sexually absent relationship before you sought some satisfaction and comfort outside thouse boundaries? Thanks very much for listening to us. It means alot :-) -dave

Sun Jan 25, 2004 10:30 am MST by -dave

Comment Well...I think it is lovely.. I read the other comment posted, and I feel for her for I am there or was there..hell, I am still there. I see her point...but, in the full scheme of things, we all must do what is best for us! I love my husband, we have worked on our relationship, and continue to work to repair our mess. I don't know if it will ever be fixed. But, truth be told, if you have a chance for happiness, dave, grab it, there is not a day that goes by, that I don't dream of that feeling. I would love to be held gently by a lover, and feel what you are feeling, if only just once more in my lifetime! Enjoy~dave. No one knows what you are going through, I will never judge another person again...not after some of the revelations in my own life!

Sun Jan 25, 2004 12:34 am MST by Alura

Comment Hi Dave! I've read your posts and I am really happy for you- But let me try to be "one the other side" for a minute. I am in love with what I call "The Love of my Life" for a long time now, we have been throught everything together, shared everything...I gave my whole heart to this man so to say. But he was seing another woman. If he had told me about his plans, if he had just talked with me about how lonely and desperate he was, we could have worked it out together. Instead he went behind my back. How will it be for your wife to know (because one day she will) all this afterwords? How will your kids take it? What I am trying to say is, be a man, be honest, tell your wife about what you're doing and get a divorce...you don't need them both, do you? Sneaking around is exciting for everyone, but one day, it's not fun anymore. "The day we realize how much pain we're giving other people in our life, is the day we end up feeling very alone." I wish you luck, but feel very sorry for your wife no matter how hard you've tried to talk with her, she deserves to know the truth. Aren't we all?

Sat Jan 24, 2004 10:36 pm MST by Faith

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