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CommentsFaith, Alura, Thank you for kind words of happiness. More to your point Faith, I would like to make a few comments. First I appreciate your opinion, and I empathize with you for your partner's infidelity. I have been hoping to have a woman's opinion whose husband had strayed. As you can imagine, that is a difficult conversation starter in social situations :-) I found my wife's journal at one point in time. I did not read it. I told her I had found it and asked if I could read it to try and understand what she was thinking. She agreed, surprisingly. In it she outlined some of what I have shared already. She affirmed that I was still attentive and she felt loved but she had withdrawn and was no longer sexually interested. She felt she had a partial emotional attachment to me but felt herself unexplainably pulling away. She also outlined a number of predictions, such as me having enough and leaving (which was her biggest fear) or me having an affair. I was shocked. I didn't know what to do. I don't think telling her would be much value now. I think it would cause her undue hurt and grief knowing. Remember I truely do respect your opinion and your situation but I ask you this.....how long would you stay in an emotionally isolated, and sexually absent relationship before you sought some satisfaction and comfort outside thouse boundaries? Thanks very much for listening to us. It means alot :-) -dave Sun Jan 25, 2004 10:30 am MST by -dave
Well...I think it is lovely.. I read the other comment posted, and I feel for her for I am there or was there..hell, I am still there. I see her point...but, in the full scheme of things, we all must do what is best for us! I love my husband, we have worked on our relationship, and continue to work to repair our mess. I don't know if it will ever be fixed. But, truth be told, if you have a chance for happiness, dave, grab it, there is not a day that goes by, that I don't dream of that feeling. I would love to be held gently by a lover, and feel what you are feeling, if only just once more in my lifetime! Enjoy~dave. No one knows what you are going through, I will never judge another person again...not after some of the revelations in my own life! Sun Jan 25, 2004 12:34 am MST by Alura
Hi Dave! I've read your posts and I am really happy for you- But let me try to be "one the other side" for a minute. I am in love with what I call "The Love of my Life" for a long time now, we have been throught everything together, shared everything...I gave my whole heart to this man so to say. But he was seing another woman. If he had told me about his plans, if he had just talked with me about how lonely and desperate he was, we could have worked it out together. Instead he went behind my back. How will it be for your wife to know (because one day she will) all this afterwords? How will your kids take it? What I am trying to say is, be a man, be honest, tell your wife about what you're doing and get a divorce...you don't need them both, do you? Sneaking around is exciting for everyone, but one day, it's not fun anymore. "The day we realize how much pain we're giving other people in our life, is the day we end up feeling very alone." I wish you luck, but feel very sorry for your wife no matter how hard you've tried to talk with her, she deserves to know the truth. Aren't we all? Sat Jan 24, 2004 10:36 pm MST by Faith
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